Well, we say summer, but really this topic is applicable to any time of year with children. Whether you have multiple children participating in one activity each or one child participating in a couple activities, it can feel like trying to crack a locked safe to figure out a schedule that works for everyone.
Before you get to the point that you’re stressed out from too many activities, take into consideration the following factors when selecting activities for yourself or your kids:
- Your Schedule: Unless you have a nanny, neighbor or grandparent who is more than willing to help with shuttling your children to different events, it’s really up to the you, the parent, and your available schedule. Apart from work, you need to determine how much time per week you want to spend at your kids’ activities.
- Time Commitment: Once you know what hours you have available, you need to determine how much of that available time you want to spend attending activities. Knowing the location (for drive-time) and the length of the activity will help you determine your overall commitment. Consider a longer activity less often during the week versus a shorter activity that meets often. Many also forget to commit time for them. Yes, you as the parent also need time for activities you want or enjoy, such as an exercise class.
- Number of Activities: Many times we get stressed because we overbook and don’t have any down time. Our children don’t need to be in every structured activity. Choose one per season and consider one yearlong. This could be an instrument and summer soccer or Taekwondo and baseball. The yearlong activity should be something they truly enjoy and want to continue with while the seasonal are those that have peaked interest, but aren’t sure if they want to do long-term.
Let’s say you’ve done all of the above, but you’re still stressing out and not finding the time to get everyone done that you want – at home, work, etc. Follow these tips to help alleviate some schedule stress.
- Divide and conquer – Take turns with your spouse or significant other for kid activity attendance. One week it’s your turn to drive and attend; the next week it’s their turn. This not only gives you, the parent, a break, but it also gives your child some more one-on-one time with each of you. If possible, big events or games should be attended by all family members for support.
- Prioritize – Summer is hard because of vacations. Prioritize which practices, games and tournaments are most important and don’t sweat the others if your children can’t attend. Missing a practice or two won’t affect them and you can always practice at home.
- Drop an activity – As long as this is beneficial for the health of your family, it may be best to drop an activity. No stress on your child or yourself is worth continuing with. If your child is showing signs of disinterest, continuously complaining about not wanting to go, it may be time to take a break. It could be for a week or two or the rest of the season.
At the end of the day, activities should be learning and growing opportunities for your children that they enjoy. Interests come and go. Listen to your children and use common sense. If you’re spending more time in the car and at activities than time with your family, it may be time to reconsider how many activities you’re committed to.
TKD Tip: When introducing new foods to your children, do it slowly. One new food every week or two and reintroduce it a few months later if they didn’t like it. Take them to the grocery store with you and have them pick out (with your help) one new food to try. Make it for a snack or meal and if they like it, start incorporating into more meals.
TKD Tip: In addition to the words we speak, our tone, facial expressions and body language also speak volumes to little ones watching. Make sure you’re sending your kids clear messages and leading by example.
Some of these benefits include:
TKD Tip: When planning family time, make sure to take into consideration their ages and needs. Younger children need more one-on-one attention while older children may prefer some more alone time. Plan accordingly that you always have one event together as a whole family and then decide how much more time you need to dedicate to each child.
We’ve gone through a digital evolution in the past two decades. The extent of available electronics is astounding, as is the rate at which they are continuing to be produced. From iPods and cell phones to tablets, e-readers, computers and more, our children are inundated with technology that is easily accessible and getting harder to manage
TKD Tip: We can’t just look at our kids though when it comes to screen time. They model our behavior, so if you’re spending a lot of time on your phone or computers, you’re telling them it’s okay. Lead by example and set limits for all family members
Parenting at every stage of life is a little bit of a roller coaster. When children learn independence and want to take charge (a.k.a. strong-willed children), parenting can feel like a constant battleground.
TKD Tip: While a strong-willed child is difficult to raise in their younger years, nurture their independence as they usually tend to grow up to be self-motivating leaders.
The true meaning of the holidays can sometimes get away from us. While it’s fun to open gifts and attend parties, it’s also important to teach our children the gift of giving. Giving should be done whenever possible, not just around the holiday season, but this makes for a great time to get kids started and could be incorporated into a New Years resolution.
TKD Tip: As you’re preparing your children for the end of daylight savings, remember to take care of yourself as well and adhere to these tips. There is nothing worse than dealing with tired, cranky kids when you are also tired and cranky.
TKD Tip: Germs are spread through the eyes, mouth and nose. Make sure your kids know this and that touching their face after touching germs is how they get sick (as well as coughing or sneezing on others). Teach them to cover their mouths/noses and to always wash their hands.
Now that school is back in session and the holidays are around the corner, you’re probably feeling the pressure of supporting every school booster, fundraiser and volunteer opportunity for your child.
TKD Tip: Make sure to set boundaries. Ask yourself what you are willing to support and what is important to you. It’s okay to say no, because you’ll add more value to those you focus your time and resources to.
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